Sexual dysfunction among men is probably one of the least talked about problems a man may experience in life; yet premature ejaculation is also a very common problem. What exactly is the culprit that causes premature ejaculation? It is difficult to pin-point the cause of this problem; however, there are a NUMBER of suspects that could be linked to premature ejaculation among men. Believe it or not, procreation and anxiety could be having more of an impact than anyone realizes.
The survival instinct
When you look at the reasons for sex at the most primal level, the purpose of it is to procreate the species. The reproductive system, from the evolutionary perspective, relies on a quick orgasm in the face of other competition. This ensures that your genetics will be passed on and your species will survive. But as we evolve, sex is less about survival of a species and more about feeling good. Our brains can overcome our primal urges with practice and education. Controlling an orgasm will need just that.
Anxiety is another contributing factor to what causes premature ejaculation; this is perhaps the driving force behind sexual dysfunction in general. Unfortunately, there are a number of reasons a person could experience anxiety. Are you comfortable being naked in front of anyone? If the answer is “NO” then you’ll probably feel nervous in front of your partner. Being anxious during sex because of bad past experiences can also lead to questioning your sexual ability the next time you have sex. This turns into a self-destructive cycle; bad experience begets more bad experiences.
Learning to relax and treating anxiety is perhaps one of the biggest factors to overcome. There are a variety of relaxation techniques that can help in treating anxiety; however realizing you actually are experiencing anxiety during sex is the first step. When the sensations during your sexual experience began to surface, immediately change your focus to something else, like your breathing. Is it erratic? Or are you breathing deep and slow?
Early sexual behavior can be a contributing factor to what causes premature ejaculation in adulthood. The way you masturbated as a youngster probably did not focus on sustained pleasure but rather instant gratification. After years of experiencing quick orgasms you’ve trained yourself to have this strong reflex action during intercourse. The brain has mapped out exactly how it experiences an orgasm during sex. Every time this action is repeated it becomes more ingrained and more solidified, like changing a dirt pathway to a concrete highway. You can learn to re-program the way your brain works, but it will be difficult, just like trying to change the direction a concrete highway is going to be hard. Time and persistence is your ally when re-training your brain.
In some cases, there is a valid medical reason behind what causes premature ejaculation. It is rare, less than 1% of men who experience this problem cannot link it to anxiety or the improper training of the brain. By consulting a doctor about this problem, you can at the very least rule out a disease or a neurological imbalance.